I have always been for long-term relationships and believe that when you’re with someone or decide to be with someone; I have this hope he’s “the one.” However, after having my heart broken. I’ve let go of love and decided I can be my independent self.
As someone who highly work in digital marketing and social media, I’ve gone accustomed to posting or working with brands I strongly believe in and assess if it has values who thinks of the people they serve.
When I started a side business as an events and marketing consultant, I had no vision of growing a large following. But, I always have this principle that I will only work with whom I believe in and clients who has the heart for others. I have worked as brand ambassador for some fitness and lifestyle brand, worked as a triathlon and running event organiser, launch party Public Relations Marketing Communications Consultant and Hospitality Marketing Communications Director; I may have ridden the wave of the transition of “influencers” but have let go of the strong wave once I felt everything were becoming tedious and out of my values. I was happy simply having a few clients per year (2-3 at most).
But, God certainly have his way on re-aligning your belief, values and principles together. It’s God’s comedic irony that I ended up with upwards of half a million people I write to in emails and online, sharing my personal challenges, advocating a sustainable goal (Education) and supporting ambitious humans to give you a voice, and the opportunity to validate your business endeavour through events and community building.
Sharing my personal challenges with weight or running a business came in second.
As I strongly held on to was truthful for me. In the process, I realised that I’ve never felt uncomfortable sharing as I’ve done so with intention. Being an (accidental) LinkedIn International Independent Trainer, I know the areas of my life, head, and heart that I’ll share and do so with abandon, because I’m just as clear about the areas I keep private and personal.
There were days when I no longer want to share and there were days when I wanted to disappear but as I’ve watched closely over the years authors and industry leaders go by their maiden name and never share their husband’s face (or takes time before they finally get to do so); I thought, it would’ve been good to do the same.
When my beau and I became a couple, we had our non-negotiable discussed. I told him, I don’t want to fold in the entire “Facebook official” societal announcements and would rather meet each other’s families probably after a year.
I’ve watched women blog about every heartbreak, whether romantic or struggling through pregnancy or infertility. I’ve followed along those who share the loving parts of their lives and the wisdom they choose to share in-between.
I thought, I’d love to do the same – only and when we walk down the nave and decided to spend a lifetime together. And, he on the other hand, would rather still keep our life more in the private side.
You see, whomever you may be on those camps. Both choices are beautiful, honourable and brave. You do you and what’s best for your relationship.
When we make the choices that are right for us, not those expected or encouraged by anyone else, we feel at peace — in our style, business, relationship, life.
For me, as I have committed fully on helping Ambitious Humans to go for your dreams and build the life you love; keeping my romantic relationship private (limited) always felt right. I wanted to focus on our mission not about relationships. I’m first and foremost a teacher, a LinkedIn trainer, an events and marketing consultant; not a lifestyle blogger monetizing on my daily routine. I’ve shared to friends and some bits on his existence, what he does but the relationship, my life and the business (The After Six Club) have been their own paths.
Yet I always knew it was for a season.
As we were preparing and planning for the wedding. I knew that one day there would be wedding photos I would be be excitedly want to share, more freedom when we travel together to enjoy (it’s hard not to get someone on camera when you’re always together! and, because he’s a professional photographer, he’s always about the landscape or would rather take memory photos of our experiences). And so slowly, with lots of deep breaths, I shared through our newsletter and few instagram posts that we got engaged… that we’re planning a wedding… more “we” were happening.
If there is going to be a new season, I say go big or go home! I wanted everything to resonate who we are as a couple. That, we are not a brand that needs to curate everything beautifully as we, together, as authentic as we can be – are and is beautiful.
I knew since I was young that I wanted to make a Christmas Coffee Table book. To date I’ve never been able to bring one to life. I’m excited to make it happen – soon.
For now, here’s a quick slideshow of the 3 years we’ve been together as boyfriend/girlfriend in a nutshell. Pleased to share to you, aside from my Dad, the only man I’m spending the rest of my life.
The Professional Sports and Events Photographer, Raymond Braganza.
Hey, it’s true. If you’re still waiting for “the one”, please do know and be assured that he’s been cheering for you and praying for you long before you ever met him. And, it’s alright to choose to be an independent self-sufficient and strong wonder woman.
P.S I love love love Christmas! 🙂