Getting Married? Ask These Questions.

49 Days before we got married, I wrote in on an Instagram post on what are the discussions the hubs and I discussed thoroughly in length. Aside from the preparations for the wedding (it’s the best dress rehearsal for dialogues, discussions, and arguments), it’s essential for you and your soon-to-be partner in life to have certain conversations about –

1. Kids and How to Raise THem
2. Finances and Career
3. Moral Values, Family Values, and Religion
4. Individual, Couple and Family dreams and Goals
5. Arguments and Discussion – agree to disagree, how to handle conversations.

To thoroughly dissect each point. A discussion and dialogue shouldn’t just be a one-day affair but a constant conversation to keep each other in check.

Now that we’re a month in marriage, after all the wedding engagement bliss. It’s important for you both to discuss the following right away –

1. Outstanding debt.
Who has some and what is the plan for paying it off?

2. House into a Home 
Who handles what, what’s your ideal life will be like, dreams and goals. Solidify your roles as partners in each other’s lives and confirm that you’re working toward the same thing.

3. TV in the bedroom and Work Station
There are couples who refuse to have a TV at home and there are those who subscribe that it’s non-negotiable.  Make sure both of you get to agree on what is the bedroom for and treat each other with respect. 

4. Vacations and Family Obligations 
Getting married isn’t an escape away from your parents but rather a milestone where both of you are growing a family and establishing rituals, traditions, and ties. How much time do you spend with your family now? Which weekend will be spent where? How do you plan to spend your holidays? etc. 

5. Bank Accounts
Will you be sharing a checking account? IF so, how, where and what should it be used for? How much percent of each other’s income will you be depositing in every month? What about the other financial buckets – education, emergency fund, health car, etc. 

These are only but few of the immediate and thorough discussion the hubs and I constantly discuss. We also have agreed to review our finances every month to keep each other in-check on what we mostly spend every month and how can we better handle our finances, choices and time. 

In a nutshell, it’s all about communication, along with both of your willingness to grow closer together, even when the topic is difficult.

What do you often discuss with your partner? How do you resolve daily challenges? Would love to learn from you!